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TYPE TWO: The Giver


Type Nine: The Mediator
Type Eight: The Protector Type One: The Perfectionist
Type Seven: The Epicure Type Two: The Giver
Type Six: The Sceptic Type Three: The Performer
Type Five: The Observer Type Four: The Romantic


“Lost” essential quality: An experience of the essential truth that all needs are satisfied through a universal will, which is greater than that of the individual.

Compensating belief: You must give to receive. To be loved you must be needed.

Attention/coping strategy: Getting your own needs met by being needed and actively giving to others. Focusing attention on others’ needs and repressing your own.

Trap: Obtaining personal fulfillment through meeting other people’s needs.

Driving energy: Pride in being needed, even indispensable. Feeling you know what others need better than they do.

Avoidance: Disappointing people, becoming useless, being seen negatively by important others and being rejected.

Strengths: Generous, sensitive, helpful, energetic.

Paradox: Giving more to others does not bring freedom and fulfillment for yourself, and being cut off from an awareness of your own needs prevents you from obtaining the freedom and fulfillment you desire.

Path of development:

Ultimate task: Realizing that love is not dependent on being needed, and developing a sense of humility that goes with not knowing what to give and being in need yourself.

Practices for Growth
Sensing the needs of others and adapting to meet their needs
How have my attention and energy been going to others’ needs? In what ways have I acted on what others seemed to need? How quickly did I act on what I perceived needed my help ? In what ways did I alter or change myself to fit what others seemed to want? 

Basis:
Twos believe that love comes from fulfilling needs and in turn, they will be fulfilled, hence their attention goes to needs. 


Indispensability

In what ways did I feel or act as though I were indispensable? Take pride in being needed? How did I act like I knew what others needed better than they did? When did I give advice or be overly helpful? How have I experenced others as dependent on me?  

Basis:
Twos feel secure when their giving is valued by others. They believe that if they are indispensable, they won’t be rejected. 


Own needs and desires
 
What did I do to support or nurture myself? Take care of my needs or desires? How was I at referencing back to myself compared to referencing to others? In what ways did I let myself receive from others? Did I balance giving and receiving?

Basis: Twos often neglect their own needs and have difficulty receiving, since value or worth comes from meeting the needs of others, not from being needy.  


Six healing and growth commitments for Givers:

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